You Can Have Help or Have It Your Way, Not Both: Busy Woman’s Guide to Stress Management

One of the biggest gifts before my girls were born was an episode of Oprah featuring Dr. Phil. He was working with a couple with small children.  The wife was overwhelmed and complaining that her husband wasn’t helping with the kids. Roll the video footage,..and we soon see her criticizing every little thing he tried to do.  No wonder he stopped trying!

I so could have been that wife!  Even now, especially on the boat, I like certain things done the right way — my way of course!

Here is what Dr. Phil said: “You can have help or you can have it done your way.  Not both.  Which do you want most?”

Hmmm… good question.

I find myself saying that phrase to myself fairly often. What do I really want?  Help or my way?  Depends on the situation.

Here’s the key.  Once you choose (help or your way) you can’t complain.  If you accept help – no fair complaining about how that help is given.  If you want it your way, no complaining about doing all the work.

Yes, with children it is a bit more complicated.  It is often our job to teach them to do it the right way — but the right way for an 8-year-old may not be exactly your way.  Give them credit for doing what they can.

You might also want to check out Kim Kotecki’s suggestions on how to stop doing chores you hate!

So Busy Women, what do you want? Help or your way?  Making the choice can help you feel better, stress less, and moving in the right direction!!

Get more valuable information in Eliz’s new book, The Busy Woman’s Guide to a Healthy Heart, or in her Award Winning Blog.

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Eliz Greene survived a massive heart attack while seven-months pregnant with twins, struggled to lose the 80 pounds gained during her pregnancy, and searched for a way to hold on to the perspective and passion she found in her near-death experience. Drawing on her background as an adaptive movement specialist, Eliz developed simple strategies and tips to help other busy women be more active, eat better and manage your stress.

As the Director of the Embrace Your Heart Wellness Initiative, Eliz travels the country energizing and inspiring audiences in keynotes and workshops on women’s heart health. She writes one of the top 50 health and wellness blogs. Find more at www.EmbraceYourHeart.com.